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Happy Valentines Day!
Today is all about the love: spreading the love, feeling the love, giving the love, taking the love, eating the love (hey 3 course meal with heart shaped chocolates at the end), smelling the love (roses are red), seeing the love (so many hands to hold), and hearing the love (cue Dean martin, “That’s Amore”).
It’s at this particular time of year, that I start thinking about relationships, and not just the romantic type, but every kind that you have in your life. And it’s on this exact February day that my sisters and I forget to fight about who stole who’s mascara, that my friends and I swear that despite any boys, we will always be each others’ real soul mates, and that I am just strangely over generous and loving to really anyone I come into contact with.
It’s like someone has slipped love juice into my morning tea, and I am now magically in love with the entire world!
(Please note, that to further evidence this reality, I jet created a new Pinterest Board in honour of my love for words! If your interested, and also share this butterfly feeling for strings of consonants, check it out here. Mr. Bowman, I’m talking to you!)
But seriously, I am telling you, this Valentines thing really gets to me!
And what I begin to understand as I try to love everyone just a little more today, I realise that I am really just wanting to make them happy. For Mum, I will empty the dishwasher and make her a coffee before she comes down stairs after her shower; for my youngest sister, I will play a game of tennis with her when she gets back from school and for my friends, well,I will send them horribly unattractive snap chats of myself (You like that right? Girls? Awks.)
It totally comes back to this quote I read a while back – and I cannot find it on Pinterest, Google, Tumblr or Instagram, so maybe I made it up.
It went like this: “Relationships are not about you, they are about making the other person happier, because of you”.
I was/am/forever will be in love with this, and trumpet it’s truth: relationships with your family, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, partner, lab partner, boss, teacher, dog, goldfish and teddy bear, ARE NEVER ABOUT YOU.
It’s about them. About them being happier BECAUSE of YOU.
And because YOU make THEM HAPPY, they will LOVE you more anyway. Its a win-win situation!
So go love and make everyone you love happier. Go on, get!
Probs not, I mean with all the good series out at the moment, and the accessibility provided by Foxtel On Demand, not to mention the gossip sessions with pals and necessary winging over assignments and heat, I totally get that you more than likely don’t have the diary space to pencil in ‘happiness’.
I don’t care if you have to get up before your first three alarms, or have to miss the entrée. You best make time for this essential activity. A smile a day. Two, three, four, a hundred. As many as you can in fact, winner is the best.
Today I will be gathering a camaraderie of troops to commence 100 days of happiness.
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The old you would do it, join me in the #100happydays challenge here.
Man I wish I was French, I think I would just talk to myself so I could hear these beautifully sexy and divine words.
But there’s something even more important about this delicious set of syllables, and I would like to propose it to you as a dare, a “double-dog-dare” if you like!
Here its, *drumroll please* I hereby, dare you to say thank-you a thousand times.
Reckon you could do it in a day, a week, a month, a year, even a lifetime?
More importantly, could you actually find a thousand things to say thank-you for? I started a little list myself and spotted at least 20 before I stepped out of my bedroom (bed, pillow, T.V, Barbie dream house, the list goes on).
It’s funny, when you’re faced with the said challenge, you actually do find SO many things to say thank-you for (can I get an amen for sliced bread??).
So go on sparky, say thanks for this, for that, for anything really!
And tell me, what did you find to be thankful for first?
There’s a lot of noise at the moment about passion.
Passionfruit has always been delish, and Passiona a somewhat refreshing beverage.
But take away these suffixes, then your’e just left with little old passion. Just. Left. With. Passion. A 7 letter gem that shapes a lot of what the mystics call their ‘life-purpose’, what the entrepreneurs label their ‘calling’, and what I like to call, something bloody massive I just cant decide on.
I mean, personally, I want to be a writer, a dancer (currently I’m perfecting the moonwalk), a surfer (thanks Blue Crush), a corporate bitch, a band-member, a hippie who lives in a combi in Byron and sells handmade jewellery, a yoga instructor, a Buddhist monk, a mining magnate, Miranda Kerr… basically, everything under the sun.
I guess in my fiasco of options, I am desperately just trying to define my, wait for it… PASSION.
As I learn more about the said, 7 letter-er, I can safely say the two of us are slowly becoming friends.
Motivational books will tell you to “follow your passion” if happiness is what you truly seek, but thanks Confucius, how am I meant to follow something when I don’t even know what it looks like? There is no road-sign, no Google answer, not even a Wikipedia article that precisely tells me what my passion is. So, your notions of living a purposeful life are really of no help to me at all, not unless you help me find it anyway.
So I assigned myself a James Bond mission to get to the bottom of the P word. What I found was surprisingly simple.
What. Do. You. Love.
But here’s the catch, you have to limit it to 10. And list them in order.
These are your passions. Voila!
A 10-point list could very well include:
· Eating McDonald’s fries,
· Being with friends,
· Watching the Disney Channel,
· Playing in the pool,
· Playing with dogs,
· Being in the sun.
Please note these are the Top 10 ‘passions’ of my 12 year-old sister.
So enlighten me, how on earth is she going to make a career out of being a dog-loving, junk-food munching, cheerleader? Truth is, mate, she’s not.
So as an informer big sister, do I tell her to discard all these fun things because, well honey, that ain’t gon’ pay the bills?
Nope, I tell her to lap them up, do these things, and do them often!
Do them for as long as you stop loving doing them, and when you do, find something more fun and enjoyable to replace them.
Because they are your passions.
(P.S she later argued, telling me that people actually can make money being a cheerleader, enough for a 50-cent cone anyway!)
I think what we get caught up in, is thinking that you have to find passion in a job or career, but truthfully, that would be condemning your crazy passions into a tiny hole and saying, ‘don’t move, breathe, or smile. No fun allowed’. Passion is so much more multi-faceted.
Sure, we would all love to be Oprah, or Kelly Slater, doing for a job what we LOVE, but let’s be realistic. Don’t think that if you are not able to land your dream job on Getaway, that you are going to live in misery, you can be as happy as Pharrell, even if you are the toilet cleaner at Flinders Street Station on a Saturday night.
But “how” you scream. I’ll impart my wisdom with you, it’s all about how you spend the remaining 77 hours of your week (considering a 35 hour work week and 56 crucial beauty sleep provisions).
That my sweet child, is where you live your passions. Read, dance, bake, write, sing, play, laugh and laugh some more!
Even if you just spend half your free time doing the things you love, you have already outbid your day job. Kapish?
So basically, yeah. Homework for this week, list your ten passions, and sacrifice Game of thrones to play out your own fanstasy!
I would love to hear your thoughts on the passionate topic, and what activities and things come up in your Top 10 list.
P.S Take a leaf from Janey’s book, this gal is one passionate painter!
Even though I clearly said “not-so-chocolate”, don’t pretend your not already frothing at the mouth as you imagine yourself devouring one of grandma’s guilt-ridden, brandy-soaked, cream-filled, peppermint-crisp topped chocolate ripple cakes.
But seriously, this post has nothing to do with your lovely Nanna, her roses, how good she is at knitting, or even just being so adorably cute….or her famous chocolate ripple cake.
It has to do with this ‘ripple’ thing I’ve been experimenting with lately.
I am yet to determine the proper name for it, and it’s been the first time that old mate Google hasn’t been able to hook me up with a credible answer from his mate, wiki.
So ill try explain it.
Basically, I recently started working at a cute little cafe, and appointed myself a little mission to make every customer I serve smile – this was especially exciting when a stressed/rude/ignorant customer would come to the counter.
What I found is that, with just a little nudge, everyone: the run-down mum, the senile old man, the time-poor executive, the ambitious 20-something chick with the amazing windsor flats and perfect ombré (I must ask who her hairdresser is), are all capable of having an AMAZING day.
What got me excited, was thinking about how the course of their day had now been altered, by my teeny-tiny, one-dimpled, colgate-brushed SMILE.
I am a massive advocate for the whole “law of attraction”, “you are what you think”, “get what you give” etc., etc. movement, and it is profound to think about how circumstances, events and occurrences may have changed as a result of an altered perspective.
Sure, I only gave Mark his weak cap in a latte mug with extra chocolate dusting and a side of a friendly grin, but I wonder if that little extra, just maybe, inspired him to do something nice for the next person he came into contact with, and then if that person did the same…… and then if that person did the same……and then if that person did the same……and then if that person did the same……and then if that person did the same…….
You get where I’m going with this right?
Moral of the story, start a ripple (it will fit your macros I swear!).
I challenge you to do just one thing nice for someone, and rest happy knowing that you’ve actually changed the world, albeit in a small way.
PS. For anyone who is not shredding for stereo, heres a chocolate ripple recipe.